Should Spanking Be Banned?
January 23rd 2007 00:08
My parents never spanked us, well, not that I recall. Their method of disciplining was talking to us with raised voices and/or telling us to do several chores. My husband's parents also never spanked him and his brothers.
When we became parents we never really talked about how we would discipline our daughter. i guess we thought we'd know what to do when the opportunity presented itself. When my daughter was younger and if she was being particularly difficult I would place her in a corner and ask her to stay there for several minutes. That seemed to work.
When she was five though and we moved to another country she started acting up. I believe it was her way of expressing her frustration, fear and disappointment of leaving behind the house she grew up in and the people she grew accustomed to. There was one instance when she was being utterly difficult and we were running late for school. Then she said something really rude to me which surprised me and sent my hand flying off to her behind. Yes, I spanked her. She looked at me with surprise and started crying. I felt horrible!
Afterwards my husband and i sat down and talked about how we wanted to discipline our child, we agreed that spanking is out. I would never forget that look on my daughter's face, it just broke my heart. From then on when we had to disicpline her we used our words to firmly point out to her areas where she needs to improve and it's working. My daughter has adjusted to our new life now, she still acts up from time to time as all kids do but we see the improvement in her.
Of course parenting is subjective and as parents we must find the mode of disciplining that works for our kids.
I know this is such a sensitive issue but... There is currently a proposal to ban spanking of children 4 years and younger in California. If such a bill was proposed in your area, would you support it? Why or why not?
For me I would support it as long as what is considered "spanking" is clearly defined.
When we became parents we never really talked about how we would discipline our daughter. i guess we thought we'd know what to do when the opportunity presented itself. When my daughter was younger and if she was being particularly difficult I would place her in a corner and ask her to stay there for several minutes. That seemed to work.
When she was five though and we moved to another country she started acting up. I believe it was her way of expressing her frustration, fear and disappointment of leaving behind the house she grew up in and the people she grew accustomed to. There was one instance when she was being utterly difficult and we were running late for school. Then she said something really rude to me which surprised me and sent my hand flying off to her behind. Yes, I spanked her. She looked at me with surprise and started crying. I felt horrible!
Afterwards my husband and i sat down and talked about how we wanted to discipline our child, we agreed that spanking is out. I would never forget that look on my daughter's face, it just broke my heart. From then on when we had to disicpline her we used our words to firmly point out to her areas where she needs to improve and it's working. My daughter has adjusted to our new life now, she still acts up from time to time as all kids do but we see the improvement in her.
Of course parenting is subjective and as parents we must find the mode of disciplining that works for our kids.
I know this is such a sensitive issue but... There is currently a proposal to ban spanking of children 4 years and younger in California. If such a bill was proposed in your area, would you support it? Why or why not?
For me I would support it as long as what is considered "spanking" is clearly defined.
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Comment by MelissaA
Fun Facts
something naughty. They reply with "no" (obviously ; p ), to which I reply with "OK then, well what should you be doing/not doing?" etc.
As long as you don't abuse your kids, a little bit of smacking can go a long way.
Comment by Candice
It's like yelling. I know that if I've yelled at my daughter it's not because I think it's a good method of discipline, rather it's that I've lost it with her and my emotions are out of control.
Great topic, and an interesting one to debate.
Comment by David
I was really worried when I read the title ... I thought you were going to advocate banning S&M and Sub/Dom spanking ... Phew ... what a relief ... *** (Just being silly ...
I'm actually here to vote for you post ...
Me? I reckon parents should be spanked more often ... or spank each other a bit???
But to me? ... In all seriousness (and I'm not serious very often) ::: ... Deprivation of a child's privileges is the best form of punishment ... (They learn bloody quick smart when you take away the things they love ...
David ...
Comment by Scott Mealer
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thought i would share this
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Comment by Hope
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Yes, there are many parents who do spank their kids as a form of dsicipline and i have several friends who were spanked when they were young and hold no animosity against their parents for doing so. I guess it depends on how and why a parent does it, and of course how the child reacts to spanking. Nice to see ya here
Candice,
I agree, we all sometimes lose it and do things we regret afterwards. Most parents never plan on hurting their children, it's those who are abusive who do. Thanks for coming by:0
David,
You are naughty
Scott,
I'm sorry to hear what your stepmother did to you. And I'm glad you resolved not to do the same to your kids. It's good to break the cycle. Thanks for sharing.
Thanks to all who voted and responded, I really appreciate it.
Comment by Anonymous