What if you don't like your child's friend/s?
January 5th 2007 04:08
My daughter used to be very shy, she used to get scared whenever we brought her to the park to meet other kids. She was easily overwhelmed and it took her time to adjust to new experiences, sorroundings and people. I knew my husband and i had to do something to at least minimize her shyness. You see both my hubby and I were really shy as kids and as a result we missed many opportunities. So of course we wanted our child's life to be different, to be better. Not that there's anything wrong with being shy but there is such a thing as being too shy.
Thankfully, today our daughter is less shy and she is more adventurous. No more feeling frightened when we take her to the park. She has many friends and is more open to new experiences and meeting new people.
Of course with having friends she is exposed to different personalities and not all of them are positive. For example, one of her friends is already into make-up and fashion, not that i think there's anything wrong with it but they are just 6 years old. Another friend of hers uses words that are inappropriate for kids, words that i don't even want to post here. I know these kids are not to blame, that often they pick up these things from their parents. And since they are just 6 years old they don't have the intellectual capacity to differentiate the good from the bad all the time. But as a parent what do you do if you're not particularly fond of your child's friend/s?
Please share your thoughts....thanks.
Thankfully, today our daughter is less shy and she is more adventurous. No more feeling frightened when we take her to the park. She has many friends and is more open to new experiences and meeting new people.
Of course with having friends she is exposed to different personalities and not all of them are positive. For example, one of her friends is already into make-up and fashion, not that i think there's anything wrong with it but they are just 6 years old. Another friend of hers uses words that are inappropriate for kids, words that i don't even want to post here. I know these kids are not to blame, that often they pick up these things from their parents. And since they are just 6 years old they don't have the intellectual capacity to differentiate the good from the bad all the time. But as a parent what do you do if you're not particularly fond of your child's friend/s?
Please share your thoughts....thanks.
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Comment by George
The Re-Parenting Revolution
thanks for visiting my blog
We've tried to teach her that everybody is different and that some children will play differently and maybe even rougher, but that she doesn't have to be everybody's friend. I really try to instill in her that it's o.k. for her to be and feel whatever she wants to be and feel.
In peace and gratitude,
George
Comment by Hope
Gifted Parenting
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My daughter used to want to be everybody's friend and it affects her when kids don't respond positively to her. Now she is more able to accept the fact that not all kids will like her and vise versa and that it's okay cause she doesn't need to please everybody.
It's tough isn't it? Parenting can be daunting. Thanks for the input.
Comment by MelissaA
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The only thing I was ever able to come up with was limiting the amount of time they were all allowed to play with each other. I've found that sometimes smaller bursts more often or longer bursts less often, seem to work better in some ways.
Comment by Hope
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Comment by MelissaA
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Hope it all works out well for you. : )